You’re Girlfriend is Pregnant – Now What?

Your girlfriend tells you she’s pregnant. This wasn’t in your plans. You’re angry and frustrated. You don’t know what to do. You’ve got racing thoughts about yourself, your girlfriend, and the life that’s now growing inside her. Questioning if you’re ready to be a father. Questioning if you want to be connected to your girlfriend for the rest of your life because of this child.
You’re scared. What do you do?
Stop. Listen to her. Talk about it. Stay calm. There is time to process this. There’s no reason to make any rash decisions.
First, it’s important to gather all the facts. Get the pregnancy verified and make sure there is a viable pregnancy by obtaining an ultrasound. Pregnancies are extremely volatile, so it’s imperative that you know it is growing in the right location, there is a detectable heartbeat, it’s growing within the proper time frame, and she hasn’t miscarried or is possibly in the process of miscarrying. Then, seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for both of you.
It’s normal to be angry, frustrated, and scared. But know you’re not alone.
We would love to help you in any way you will allow. At Cross Roads we can verify pregnancies as well as perform early ultrasounds to confirm a viable pregnancy. We can also offer lay counseling and emotional support. Don’t hesitate to reach out.
Call: 304-344-4511
Text: 304-508-2911
E-mail: contactus@crossroadspcc.com

Know the Facts

So often we’re confronted with women who are pregnant and overwhelmed by their circumstances. As soon as the plus sign comes up on the pregnancy test, thoughts and questions come flooding in.

How could I bring a baby into my already chaotic life?  I can barely sustain myself and the child(ren) I have now.  There’s no way I can add another one.  Abortion seems to be the only answer.

But more often, decisions are made without knowing all the facts.  Decisions are made quickly and out of emotion.  And so often those are the ones we end up regretting.

Our work here at Cross Roads seems to be cyclical.  We often have an influx of pregnancy tests at once or a lot of cancellations at once.  But right now we’re experiencing a lot of clients who have suffered miscarriage.  Pregnancy can be incredibly volatile and change from one day to the next.  That’s why we push for our clients to have an ultrasound because a positive pregnancy test doesn’t always mean a viable pregnancy.

Just last week we had a client who had an abortion scheduled for one day but ended up not going to her appointment and miscarried the following day.  Our encouragement is just to know the facts.  All of them.  This decision shouldn’t be a rushed one.

Abortion: Grief and Loss

Abortion isn’t a word we’re not used to hearing.  Women’s rights are all over the news, and most of us are familiar with Roe v. Wade.  But what most of us don’t realize is the number of women who have had abortions (even some 20+ years ago) and are still struggling internally.

It’s a loss, and there’s grief involved no matter what way you look at it.  My heart sinks when I hear the stories, but yet I rejoice when I hear of the women who go through the healing and can speak of God’s redemption through it.

There are countless symptoms involved in grief – some even seemingly unrelated to loss.  Grief also has no timeline and can creep up out of what seems like nowhere.

Are you suffering?  Do you know someone who is?  Maybe someone has confided in you and only you.  Encourage her to seek help.  She’s not alone.  We are never alone.

We offer post-abortive healing.  Contact us today for more information.  We love walking this path with you.

304-344-4511

Contactus@crossroadspcc.com

 

A Client Review

We love our clients and take pride in serving them with love and excellency.  It’s always a pleasure when we can form relationships with them and their families.  Take a moment to read this review of our Center from one of our dear clients. 

“Cross Roads Pregnancy Center (CRPC) was a huge blessing for me and my family. I started visiting CRPC when I was around 3 or 4 months pregnant and I continued visiting them weekly until my son was 10 months. The reason I left CRPC was because my family relocated out of state for a job promotion. CRPC made me feel as if I was a part of their family. They taught me and my partner numerous valuable parenting skills. We are better parents because of the lessons we learned from attending classes at CRPC. I can never thank CRPC enough for what they have done for me. The staff are some of the nicest and caring people you will ever meet. I’m glad they were placed in my life. Congratulations on the new building and thank you for having a positive impact on my life, my child’s life, and the lives of so many other families. Thank you for everything.”

Thinking about coming in?  Call, text or e-mail us today.  We would love nothing more than to serve you and help meet your needs.

Call: 304-344-4511

Text: 304-508-2911

E-mail: contactus@crossroadspcc.com

Know Before You Decide

I’ll never forget the day Allison showed up at our clinic.  She was young and vibrant, and pregnancy wasn’t in her plans.  She was in school and far away from her family who lived many miles away.  She had her future planned out, and her scholarships would be in jeopardy if she was in fact pregnant.  She was contemplating abortion.  She just wanted all of this behind her.

She walked into our ultrasound room, and she wasn’t sure if she even wanted to have the scan.  Her nerves were written all over her face.  Our ultrasound nurse was able to talk with her and calm her a bit.  Finally she laid back, and the probe was placed on her abdomen.

The ultrasound nurse wasn’t sure she found a viable pregnancy.  She took picture after picture so the doctor would have a good view.  She told Allison (as she tells all ultrasound clients) that nothing is final until the doctor read the scans.  She closed the appointment with Allison, and told her she would be in touch with her soon.

Immediately, our nurse made her way over to the hospital for the doctor to view the scans.  He, in fact, confirmed the nurse’s opinion that the pregnancy was not viable.  Even though her pregnancy test was positive, her pregnancy wasn’t viable.  If she wouldn’t have had the ultrasound, she would have never known that.

Our doctor was able to follow up with her after her visit to our clinic, which we were thankful for.

This isn’t a story about a miscarriage.  This is a story about knowing the facts.  If Allison wouldn’t have had the ultrasound, she would have gone through with an unnecessary and potentially expensive procedure.

For an appointment with one of our nurses, please call to schedule today!

304.344.4511

 

Success: Walk for Life

We had a great time at our first ever Walk for Life on Saturday!  Miss West Virginia lead the walk and we had food and fun all morning.  It was a bit colder than we expected, but we still walked around the State Capitol in support of men, women and children in our community.  It’s incredibly refreshing to see the all those who came out to support the ministry God has planted here in Charleston.

Funds were raised to help us provide pregnancy testing, early ultrasounds, parenting education, and material goods to those in need.  We have a love for this community and serving those in need.  As we’ve stated in previous posts, we’ve now moved and have the opportunity to serve even more clients than before!

Please come and help us spread the word.  We can’t wait to serve you.

Call us: 304-344-4511

E-mail us: contactus@crossroadspcc.com

Walk for Life 2018

We are gearing up for our first ever Walk for Life at the West Virginia Capitol Complex!  We’ve done events similar to this in the past, but this is the first one of its kind.  Here are the details you need to know:

When: Saturday, October 13th

What time: Arrive at 8:30 AM for the walk that begins at 9:00 AM

Where:  West Virginia State Capitol Complex

What:  Walk 3 laps around the Capitol (<2 miles)

How: Get sponsors!  Ask friends and family to sponsor you.  The more you raise, the more prizes you get!

Prizes: Raise $150 and get a free t-shirt.  Raise $500 and get a t-shirt, and a travel mug.  Raise $1000 and get a t-shirt, travel mug, picnic blanket, and cooler bag.  There are two GRAND PRIZES that will be announced soon!

Activities:  New Life 94.5 will be broadcasting live, Miss West Virginia will be making an appearance and signing pictures, there will be activities for kids, food, and fun!

For more information, visit crossroadspccwalkforlife.com

We MOVED!

After a long search, renovation process, and more permits than we ever imagined, we’re IN!  We couldn’t be more thrilled at how the new space meets all our needs.  We’ve not got two client rooms, out store is now attached to the main office, and don’t even get me started on how much our storage capacity increased!

We’re thrilled to be able to serve more women than ever, and our staff and volunteers are itching to do just that!  Call today to make an appointment OR just stop by to tour the new facility.  We’ll be holding an open house soon, so say tuned for the date!

 

For now, enjoy a sneak peak of our new, spacious waiting area.

Tantrums

 

We’ve all heard it.  The Terrible Twos, the Trying Threes.  Those dreaded years when you’re just not quite sure how your child may react to certain things and taking them out in public is sometimes a guessing game.  Why do toddlers throw tantrums anyway?

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, most toddlers throw tantrums because they’re frustrated.  They know what they want or need, but they’re unable to communicate it.  This leaves them frustrated!  I mean think about it.  If you were hungry and couldn’t figure out how to tell someone, it would be pretty frustrating.  The AAP also notes that tantrum throwing tends to peak around the same time as language development, which makes complete sense if you think about it.  We use our words to communicate our needs.  They know what they need, but they can’t quite communicate it in an effective way.  Then as language develops and communication increases, tantrums decrease (yes, there are definitely outliers to this logic).

But in the meantime, how does a Momma deal?  I remember sitting in one of our Earn While You Learn classes with a client.  The topic was tantrums, and boy was it a good one.  I remember the instructor saying that we should EXPECT tantrums.  That’s how normal they are.  I won’t spoil the rest of the class for you because it’s totally worth your time to come in and take it.

Call us today and ask for 1-2-3 Discipline!  You won’t regret it!

Walk for Life

On Saturday, October 13th we will be hosting a fundraising walk at the West Virginia State Capitol Complex!  The event kicks off at 9:00 am.  We’re thrilled to announce that this event is family-friendly.  There will be food, fun, music, prizes, and even a guest appearance by Miss West Virginia herself.  New Life 94.5 will be broadcasting live from the event.  You don’t want to miss it!

Finding sponsors is easy!  You’ll be surprised at who wants to donate.  Even $5 makes a difference.  Sponsor forms are available now.  You don’t even need to collect money.  We’ll handle that for you!  Call us today for a sponsor form and register here to participate in the event!